Attachment Models and Their Dynamics  

Unavailability, hostility, and lack of fulfillment from caregivers results in the "Avoidant" attachment model. The pattern includes a sense that relationship and intimacy are so difficult that we tend to opt out of intimacy. This results in a major disconnection from relationships as a source of comfort in life. These are the "Desperados," people who may feel they don't need people.   

The here-today-gone-tomorrow "Ambivalent" type of bonding leads to continual frustration and insecurity in relating that may manifest as feeling incapable of ever being truly loved or lovable enough. It can be coupled with  an over-focus on the other and and under-focus on the self. This wound is founded on early care givers' inconsistency and lack of trust in that the other person will stay connected. This  attachment type will often ask "Will you still love me tomorrow?"  

 "Disorganized" attachment can result when a parent is terrifying. frightening and confusing. This describes a conflict between two major biological drives. On one hand  a child looks for a safe attachment figure. On the other the child  instead finds a need to protect themselves and may be motivated by the survival instincts to dis-attach. Stuck in the approach/avoidance conflict the message can feel like ”I want to love you -  and you scare me to death."  

Secure, Healthy attachment results when parents are present, safe and consistent and create a holding environment that allows for healthy relating and bonding. Fortunately, we can re-access the original, innate healthy attachment system later in life!

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Module 1 Embracing the Authentic Self

Module One is the foundational workshop for the DARE Healing Attachment Wounds series which explores the dynamics of Attachment Models in forming our early patterns of bonding. Through lecture, demos, and lots of interactive exercises, Diane explains Secure, Ambivalent, Avoidant and Disorganized Attachment styles, how they are imprinted in early life and "lived out" in later relationships. She offers creative,clinical interventions which restore Secure attachment and allow greater intimacy, trust and joy in current relationships. 

For more information:

Radio Interview with Diane by Carolyn Craft: Attachment Theory

VIDEO: Click here to See Video of feedback about Healing Attachment Wounds workshop from therapists, psychiatrists and healers from the New York, New York workshop: Pat Gallagher, LCSW; Deanna De Gaetano, LCSW-R; Dr. Allan Gold, Joy Loftstrand; Pearl Broder, and Jacob Kind.

2009 European Dates 

Stockholm, Sweden October 4-6  bea@se-terapi.no, http://www.se-terapi.no

Havelte, Holland, September 18-21  Henne Arnolt www.bodymindopleidingen.nl email: info@bodymindopleidingen.nl  +31 (0)10-46 676 25 

2010 USA

2010 Demo Day: Nov. 4  Workshop: November 5 (click here for more info)  

*Mod. 1 is the Prerequisite for Modules 2, 3 and 4

Module 1*, taken as a workshop, a Demo Day Review, or reviewed through the ASA DVD series rental, is required for the other DARE workshops. Note: Workshops 2, 3, and 4 may be taken out of order. 

Taking one of these steps to prepare yourself will help you understand the foundational concepts of Attachment Styles: Secure, Avoidant, Ambivalent, and Disorganized. The experiential exercises in the ASA DVDs will provide a foundation for you to explore and integrate the concepts personally and to know how to apply them professionally with clients.

To rent the ASA DVD YOU MUST FIRST BE ENROLLED IN MODULE 2, 3 or 4. The ASA option is listed on the registration form for each class.

Module 2 Creating Healthy Adult Relationships

2010 New York, New York

Review of Mod. 1/Demo Day: February 11    Workshop:February 12-14, 

This workshop explores how three different Attachment Styles, Avoidant, Ambivalent and Disorganized, may intrude and create suffering in adult relationships, with our partners, parents, children and friends. This material builds on the fundamentals of DARE Module 1: Healing Attachment Wounds and Embracing the Authentic Self to take a deeper look at how these dynamics play out in daily life.  Through an array of engaging exercises you will learn how these dynamics can be transcended, leading to greater freedom and intimacy in all adult relationships.  Learn specific strategies to support and nourish secure healthy attachment for all the Attachment Styles.  Acquire more skills to serve your clients and your own growth, see specific examples of how techniques are applied to relationship styles and receive an assessment tool for determining client Attachment Styles.

(note: Mod. 1 prerequisite required by workshop, demo or DVD series*)                    

2009 European Dates

Oslo, Norway, October 1-4, bea@se-terapi.no, Phone: 0047 67 53 19 33

Copenhagen, Denmark, Workshop: October 15-18, Review of Mod. 1/Demo Day: October 21. Contact Mayadevi Dichmann or Heidi Eid at www. Beingreal.dk, Phone (45) 4220 9629 Email; info@beingreal.dk

Cologne, Germany, October 22-25  veeto@oshouto.com, Phone: 0049 221 510 14 01 http://www.oshouta.de/uta_site_eng/

 

Module 3 Sensuality, Sexuality and Intimacy with Self and Others 

2010 New York, New York

Demo Day: June 16 Workshop: June 17-19

For anyone who wants to reclaim the sacredness and satisfaction of their sensuality and sexual being-ness.  Packed with exciting exercises for individuals and couples, this workshop is designed to identify past patterns and tendencies of Attachment styles, strengthen your understanding of your relationship to your own sexuality, and enliven intimate relationships with intimacy, clarity and fun. Chart your own personal history of sexual being-ness, explore hidden expectations of sex roles and realities, and expand your capacity of healthy balance in merging and aloneness.Learn to identify your needs and values to gain integrity of body, mind and soul, celebrate the authentic self and honor self and others in the dynamic dance of love. (note: Mod. 1 prerequisite by workshop, Review/Demo Day  or ASA DVD series required*)

Module 4  The End of Us and Them: Disorganized Attachment and Victim Perpetrator Dynamics   

 2009  New York, New York Demo Day: December 3    Workshop: December 4 – 6

2010  New York, New York Demo Day: July 22   Workshop: July 23-25 

2009 European Dates

Centrum de Bron, Holland, October 7-10, www.centrumdebron.nl, Email;info@aumm.nl Phone: 0031 595 423023